Colors
Sexual = purple/magenta
Romantic = green
Alterous = blue, cyan
Sensual = orange
QPlatonic = pink + yellow
Platonic = yellow
Aesthetic = pink
Wavership = brown + light blue
Amical = light brown/dark orange
Guardian/Protective = purple + purplish blue
Grace = lightish blue + lightish green
Emotional = red
Intellectual = white + gold
Noetic = black + tan
Spiritual = purple + white
Familial/Fellowship = green + yellow
Social = red
Pragmatic = peach + green/blue
Erotic = burgundy
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Definitions
Sexual = desiring sexual interaction (sexual intercourse, sexually touching/groping, kissing, finding sexual pleasure)
Romantic = desiring romantic interaction (being physically close, affectionate speech, living together, making lifelong commitment decisions, romantic affection, doing things together exclusively, valuing the relationship more than others)
Alterous = desiring interaction that is neither 100% platonic or 100% romantic, but is rather somewhere in between (affectionate speech, physical affection, doing things together exclusively, valuing the relationship more than others)
Sensual = desiring sensual interaction (kissing, cuddling, handholding, nonsexual touch, stroking, grooming, physical affection, sharing space, being physically close)
QPlatonic = desiring interaction that is not 100% platonic, but is actually more, while not being 100% romantic either (kissing, cuddling, handholding, nonsexual touch, being physically close, affectionate speech, doing things together exclusively, valuing the relationship more than others)
Platonic = desiring platonic interaction (nonsexual touch, doing things together exclusively, valuing the relationship more than others (possibly), friendship, making lifelong decisions together, relying on each other emotionally)
Aesthetic = experiencing aesthetic attraction (admiration, valuing their existence more than others (non-obsessively), adoration, interest in their persona, distant emotional reliance)
Wavership = experiencing attraction that can fluctuate between different types or different expressions (called fluidic)
Amical = experiencing platonic + siblinghood attraction (nonsexual touch, valuing the relationship more than others, friendship, doing things together exclusively, emotional reliance, possible physical affection, familial bonds)
Guardian/Protective = experiencing protective attraction (valuing the relationship more than others, doing things together exclusively, possible physical affection, emotional reliance, possible grooming and being physically close, feeling protective or guide-like emotions; may be platonic, romantic, a mix, or some other type) (also called tutelary or dominant)
Grace = experiencing protected/guarded attraction (valuing the relationship more than others, doing things together exclusively, possible physical affection, possible grooming and being physically close, emotional and mental dependence, ‘following behind’ or willing to release some independence, but not completely or by force; may be platonic, romantic, a mix, or some other type) (also called submissive and concomitant)
Emotional = experiencing attraction that fits multiple types at once, or has characteristics of multiple types of attraction while not strictly falling into any type. (this is sometimes called ‘doraric’ attraction)
Intellectual = experiencing intellectual attraction (valuing their opinions, fascination with their skill level, adoration of their field of intelligence (not how smart, but what they’re smart in), valuing their existence more than others (non-obsessively), interest in their persona, desiring partnership or guide-like relationships, possibly other traits of attraction; may be mixed with another type of attraction but not always)
Spiritual = experiencing spiritual attraction (valuing their opinions, emotional and mental reliance, valuing their existence more than others (non-obsessively), desiring partnership or guide-like relationships, spiritual bonding, doing things together exclusively, friendship, possible familial bonds, possible physical affection, performing spiritual practices together, fascination, interest in their persona)
Noetic = experiencing mental attraction (valuing their opinions, fascination with their point of view or perception of reality, fascination and appreciation of their ‘mental map’ (how they see the world/how their mind ‘works’), admiration of their perspectives or opinions, desiring a guide-like or apprentice-like relationship (possibly), valuing their existence more than others (non-obsessively), interest in their persona, possible emotional reliance, favoring their input and guidance, intimacy) Please read this for a better explanation.
Familial/Fellowship = experiencing familial attraction or desiring a familial bond (being physically close, living together, valuing the relationship more than others, emotional reliance, valuing their existence more than others, possible desire for a guide-like or guardian/grace attachment, friendship, valuing their opinion more than others)
Social = desiring social interaction (verbal speech, sharing information, discussing interests, spending time together, possible desire to have a deeper relationship)
Pragmatic/Hospitable = ‘a means to an end’ type of relationship or attraction, the desire to appease for some gain, or to create a relationship with a common goal besides simply being in love (this can be across multiple expressions of affection, kindness, compatibility, interaction, and interest. This type is listed for those in arranged marriages, professional partnerships, procreational relationships, hospitality employment such as hospital or hotel services, and sex workers.)
Erotic/Nonsexual = experiencing erotic attraction (an aesthetic attraction to nonsexual nudity, or a nonsexual interest in human anatomy; the best example is admiration of the human physique, particularly genitals or secondary reproductive organs (though not always exclusively), but not wishing for sexual interaction. This is placed here for those on the asexual spectrum, or those who simply do not feel the desire to have sexual interaction with others, but are not sex-repulsed.)
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Words for each attraction
(A word used by the person feeling the attraction would call their target of attraction they are NOT in a relationship with)
Sexual: smush, lust
Romantic: crush
Alterous: mesh, hush
Sensual: lush
QPlatonic: plush
Platonic: squish, squush, thete
Aesthetic: swish
Wavership: unknown, flush? waffle?
Amical: unknown, shush? thresh?
Guardianship: mush
Grace: gush, sush
Emotional: unknown, blush?
Intellectual: unknown, rush?
Spiritual: unknown, immesh? inmesh?
Mixture: slush, flish, immesh?
Social: N/A
Pragmatic: N/A
Erotic: N/A
Noetic: unknown
Familial/Fellowship: N/A
Unknown: unknown, thrush? (as in the bird) sesh? immesh?
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Titles
(what the individual experiencing the attraction calls those they’re in a relationship with)
Sexual: sex partner
Romantic: (date)friend, partner, significant other
Alterous: varies
Sensual: unknown, cuddle buddy?
QPlatonic: queerplatonic partner/qpp
Platonic: friend
Aesthetic: idol
Wavership: varies, wavermate
Amical: unknown
Guardianship: comate, grace, cherish, ward
Grace: concomitant, guide partner
Emotional: varies
Intellectual: unknown
Pragmatic: partner
Noetic: unknown
Erotic: N/A
Social: N/A
Familial/Fellowship: second sibling, second (parent term), any typically family-oriented term
Spiritual: spirit guide, soul mate, soul partner, spiritual partner
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Other forms of attraction exist, but I don’t know enough about them to list them.
This is the UPDATED (11/27/18) version of the previous list. After some consideration, more were added that I felt were important to those with neurodivergency, or nontraditional forms of relationships or attraction.
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